The Gift of Family Influences

As a teenager I spent a lot of time in my bedroom. I doodled. I read books. I rarely studied. I always listened to music. Sometimes on a cassette player that my sister Jennifer had given me for Christmas. Sometimes it was on a radio built to look like an old Rolls Royce. Jennifer probably gave that to me as a gift, too. At night I could pick up WBAP in Ft. Worth and WOAI in San Antonio. Sometimes it was on a "portable" record player, the kind where you stacked LPs or 45s on a spindle that dropped and played them. I'm pretty sure I inherited the record player, it seems like it was JCPenney or 'Monkey Wards' brand, from my brother Billy.

As for what kind of music, well, it depended. Albums and 45s cost money so if we had one around the house, it was most likely someone's property and you had to be careful about borrowing it. I was too cheap to splurge for albums so those were mostly my older siblings or occasionally Mom's, though I could only take so much of Floyd Cramer, Ferrante and Teicher, or Jim Nabors. I did spend money on singles, which cost about a dollar if I remember correctly. My musical tastes weren't very sophisticated ... I recall owning 'Snoopy vs. The Red Baron' by the Royal Guardsmen, 'Sugar, Sugar' by the Archies, 'The Night Chicago Died' by Paper Lace and 'Cherry Hill Park' by Billy Joe Royal. I'm guessing my Mother didn't pay much attention to Billy Joe Royal's lyrics or the record would have been tossed. Top 40 or Country was the only music available on the radio in the Panhandle, which probably accounts for the lack of taste in my 45 purchases.

I would like to claim some musical taste credit for The Beatles 'Hey Jude' that I bought off the 45RPM rack at Woolworth's (the B side was 'Revolution'), but the truth is I never heard the song before buying it. It was a Beatles single, so I assumed it was pretty cool, plus, the big, green apple on the label really grabbed my attention.

I was the only one in the house with the technology to play cassette tapes, and they were more expensive than albums. Blank cassette tapes were pretty cheap though, so I would buy them, record songs I liked from the radio and play them back later. The quality was terrible, though I didn't have much concept of audio quality at the time.

For Christmas this year the boy, who is 17, received a Tivoli Audio Music System. It's a high-quality, compact radio/CD/bluetooth music system and, as a bonus, it serves as an alarm clock. The purchase decision began with an initial question to myself, 'When I was 17, what would I have wished for at Christmas?' My son is much more musical than I ever was; he can play the saxophone and read music. My best (and only) musical instrument is the stereo. I thought it would be a good gift, but after I got it I began to worry that something was missing.

Growing up I remember fighting for control of the radio in the car with my sisters, who preferred pop songs, and my Mother, who preferred it off. I was the one who would not stick to a station. I'd punch out on the first notes of a song I disliked, bouncing around the dial to find something likable and familiar. I've confessed my early poor musical taste already, but even if it was bad, they were my choices and I spent a lot of time and energy listening to music and building opinions ... The Doors were too trippy, The Rolling Stones were too scary, The Monkees, though a secret pleasure, were much too popular to be publicly embraced. The boy doesn't seem to do that, though it's likely I'm just another clueless parent when it come to my son's habits. It's not that he doesn't know what's going on in the popular music scene, he just doesn't embrace it like I did, so after I bought the music system I wondered if he would really appreciate it.

Over the years I've often forced the boy to watch movies like 'Airplane' and 'The Outlaw Josey Wales' and 'The Godfather,' always claiming that he needed to see them for his cultural edification. I've spent a fair amount of time forcing him to listen to classic rock stations and asking 'who sings this?' He has three default answers ... ZZ Top if it's bluesy with a strong guitar, Tom Petty if it's lyrical and balanced, The Beatles if it sounds remotely like the singer could be British ... but I can tell his heart isn't in it. I've just about decided you can't force feed culture and frankly, I'm tired of classic rock; it makes me feel old. Nevertheless, it is incumbent upon me as a parent to provide some sort of cultural reference points and so, along with the Tivoli Audio Music System, I have compiled a set of two dozen or so CD's with the help of his aunts and uncles.

Below are the 'liner notes' I put together for him. It may have been a wasted effort, you can lead a horse to water and all that, but it was fun putting it together and they are all in my digital library now ... no more sneaking LPs from Nelda and Billy, yeah! The set consists of 5 CDs of songs from various artists that I remember hearing as a kid. I've divided them up by which one of my family members was responsible for introducing me to the music. The next 20+ CDs were recommendations from aunts and uncles who responded to the question 'What artist or album do you remember listening to when you were 18ish years old?' Some aunts and uncles ( Nelda, Neil ) could not follow instructions and gave me several suggestions, which is why there are 20+ CDs instead of 10 or so, but no matter, it's all good, and the exercise of compiling it all, making those family + music connections, was spiritually uplifting, convincing me, for the moment, that families are a gift (one that is sometimes difficult to accept, I admit!) and more than a happy (or unhappy) accident.

Grandpa Turner's CD:

Although Dad had quite a repertoire of songs for singing while driving, for me, anything and everything Bob Wills pretty much sums it up. I remember hearing a Bob Wills recording when I was in high school and thinking, "He wasn't just making up those songs!"  There are two copies of Milk Cow Blues, my favorite Bob Wills song. I prefer the one with lyrics to the instrumental but they are both true Panhandle white-boy soul.

I've also included a song by Lynn Anderson, (I Never Promised You a) Rose Garden. Dad had one 8-track tape. I think it was stuck in the tape player in one of the old Chevy's we had. When I hear that song I swear I can smell Panhandle dust and if I close my eyes I can see the landscape between Pampa and McLean. Rose Garden has memorable violins. Bob Wills played the fiddle.

track listing:

Milk Cow Blues Bob Wills
Bubbles In My Beer Bob Wills
Faded Love Bob Wills
Cadillac And A Model "A" Bob Wills
New San Antonio Rose Bob Wills
Bob's Breakdown Bob Wills
Time Changes Everything Bob Wills
Cherokee Maiden Bob Wills
Rose Garden Lynn Anderson
I Ain't Got Nobody Bob Wills & His Texas Playboys
Corrine Corrina Bob Wills & His Texas Playboys
Liebestraum Bob Wills & His Texas Playboys
Take Me Back to Tulsa Bob Wills & His Texas Playboys
Roly Poly Bob Wills & His Texas Playboys
Stay a Little Longer Bob Wills & His Texas Playboys
Milk Cow Blues Bob Wills

Grandma Turner's CD:

First and foremost, I learned to appreciate gospel music from Mom. Specifically, a capella gospel music. The two here were some of the most memorable, Love Lifted Me and Holy, Holy, Holy. I still remember Mr. Lusby, our preacher, walking along the outside aisles of the church auditorium and putting his finger to his lips in a polite 'shush' for certain church members who couldn't carry a tune in a bucket, as they say.

I think Mom liked Floyd Cramer and Boots Randolph simply for their playing style and musicianship, though I wouldn't be surprised if she liked them simply because they drove us crazy.

As for Patsy Cline, I think Mom secretly liked her music; I would catch her humming along. But for the record she tended to categorize her as troubled and probably not a good Christian woman. The songs I've included here are quite melancholy and it's the mood more than the lyrics that remind me of Mom.

Just as important as the music she listened to was the music she disapproved. If she didn't like it, I was intrigued. That's part of why I suspect she insisted on acts like Chet Atkins and Ray Coniff to annoy me, because I played music to annoy her. Like the radio, it was just a question of knowing which button to push.

I distinctly remember Mom discussing how The Beach Boys and 'Good Vibrations' was a signal for the beginning of the end for American culture. How we were headed for a society that would be consumed by their own pleasures, instead of by their obligations and responsibilities. I think she nailed that one.

I also remember her not knowing what to make of Norman Greenbaum and 'Spirit in the Sky.' He was a jewish guy with a gospel song, and it was not nearly respectful (traditional?) enough for her tastes, and definitely not a capella. When it came on the radio (KPUR, 1440 AM, Amarillo, TX) I would sing along, and she would quickly turn it off.

Jim Stafford's "Wildwood Weed" was one of those songs where Mom's reaction confused me. It was obviously about marijuana, yet she found it funny and didn't switch the station when it came on. Of course, later, when I was in high school, she asked me if I could ask one of my "druggie friends" for some marijuana seeds to feed her canaries ... she had heard it was good for their libido. Somehow I managed to come up with a tic-tac box full of seeds for her, but I don't think it helped her roosters much.

track listing:

Love Lifted Me Randy Travis
Holy, Holy, Holy No Other Name
Last Date Floyd Cramer
Help Me Make It Through the Night Floyd Cramer
Yakety Sax Boots Randolph
Charlie Brown Boots Randolph
Crazy Patsy Cline
I Fall To Pieces Patsy Cline
Good Vibrations The Beach Boys
Wildwood Weed Jim Stafford
Spirit in the Sky Norman Greenbaum

Aunt Jennifer's CD:

When I was in the 5th grade, Jennifer bought me a cassette tape player/recorder for Christmas. It came with some blank tapes and at some point during her time home at Christmas we went to Gibson's (the 1960's version of Walmart) and she bought me a pre-recorded cassette tape of The Beatles, Magical Mystery Tour. It was, perhaps. the first music of my very own and I wore it out. I loved it.

There are a few other songs I associate with Jennifer. 'Summer in the City' by the Lovin' Spoonful, because I remember hearing it when driving around Ft. Worth in what I thought was the hottest summer ever when visiting her. 'The Candy Man' by Sammy Davis, Jr., because one summer while visiting we could not get in the car without hearing that song. And 'We're Not Gonna Take It' from The Who ... because she used 'Tommy' in one of the high school English classes she taught and I remember thinking how cool it would be to have teachers like her. And 'A Boy Named Sue' by Johnny Cash ... though to be honest, I actually associate it more with Dan, though I'm not sure why.

track listing:

Magical Mystery Tour The Beatles
The Fool On the Hill The Beatles
Flying The Beatles
Blue Jay Way The Beatles
Your Mother Should Know The Beatles
I Am the Walrus The Beatles
Hello, Goodbye The Beatles
Strawberry Fields Forever The Beatles
Penny Lane The Beatles
Baby, You're a Rich Man The Beatles
All You Need Is Love The Beatles
Summer In The City The Lovin' Spoonful
A Boy Named Sue Johnny Cash
The Candy Man Sammy Davis, Jr.
We're Not Gonna Take It The Who

Uncle Billy's CD:

Billy and I shared a room for a while. I slept on the top bunk. He had a record player where you could stack albums on a spindle and they would play one after the other. These are some of the artists and songs I remember:

Johnny Horton (The Battle of New Orleans, Sink the Bismarck) was, I guess, country, but I just liked the stories the songs told.

Shelley Berman and Bill Cosby were my first exposure to traditional 'stand-up' comedy. I listened to these so often I could repeat the gags with perfect timing, which truly helped me appreciate the difficulty of that talent.

Bobby Vinton's 'Blue Velvet' and 'Mr. Lonely' were such sad songs. I often wondered why someone would bother writing a sad song and, of course later, when I got to be a teenager and had some heartbreaks, I understood perfectly.

Lesley Gore (Sunshine, Lollipops And Rainbows) helped me to appreciate the power of a good hook and singable pop ... even though the lyrics were silly. Billy had a white Ford Falcon with an 8-track tape player and this was one of the tapes he had.

The Beach Boys were iconic. Cool dudes. Back then, California was exotic and the ultimate cool place. It was only later that I began to appreciate the musicianship and marketing power of these songs and this group.

The Four Seasons were everywhere. I loved singing along with their Greatest Hits album ... I was probably all of 8 years old and had an awesome falsetto.

I used to sing every song on the Roger Miller's Greatest Hits album. I loved them all. Twangy, funny, catchy.
I distinctly remember Carly Simon singing You're So Vain on the radio as Billy was driving us back from Perryton , from a basketball or football game most likely. It was snowing and Billy made some comment about being careful not to make songwriter girlfriends angry. I wonder if Taylor Swift takes her vengeful song formula from Carly Simon.

The Herb Alpert songs were much later. I remember playing them on his stereo when baby sitting Tami and Cheri.

The first time I heard the Allman Brother's "Ramblin' Man" was on a 45 RPM single that Billy bought. It always seemed so wistful.

I was probably 15 when I heard Steve Miller's "The Joker" for the first time. I loved the song, and was absolutely shocked that my "old" brother had the album. I loved the album cover, too.

track listing:

The Battle Of New Orleans Johnny Horton
Sink The Bismarck Johnny Horton
Cleans And Dirtys Shelley Berman
Shop Bill Cosby
Blue Velvet Bobby Vinton
Mr. Lonely Bobby Vinton
Sunshine, Lollipops And Rainbows Lesley Gore
Little Deuce Coupe The Beach Boys
Help Me, Rhonda The Beach Boys
Walk Like A Man Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons
Sherry Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons
King Of The Road Roger Miller
You're So Vain   Carly Simon
Tijuana Taxi Herb Alpert & The Tijuana Brass
Spanish Flea Herb Alpert & The Tijuana Brass
A Taste Of Honey Herb Alpert & The Tijuana Brass
Ramblin' Man The Allman Brothers Band
The Joker Steve Miller Band

Aunt Nelda's CD:

At some point Mom bought us a record player/radio that was built into a coffee table. We had a few albums and adding to the collection was always something special. We had some TERRIBLE albums like Bloodrock and Zager & Evans (that's what they get for letting the little kid pick the music), but we had some great ones, too. I associate most of these with Nelda, because she was always hogging the stereo, but a couple of these remind me more of Loretta. I don't really have a good reason for it, other than we argued a lot over what to play and a lot of our time growing up consisted of arguing over who got what, from the last soda pop in the fridge to what TV show to watch to whose record got played.

In any case, I associate The Grass Roots, Neil Diamond and Simon & Garfunkel with Nelda. The James Gang and Jefferson Airplane seem more like Loretta songs. It's probably not fair to call these the Aunt Nelda tracks, but I didn't want to break them up separately.

The Stylistics were definitely Nelda songs. I remember her singing along with them, a LOT.

Some of the other songs on this set are from a later era, when Nelda was in high school or off to college. The Rod Stewart songs were definitely high school. she used to borrow Billy's green Pontiac Lemans to drive her friends to basketball games and what-not. I remember riding with her and her friends and listening to Maggie May on the 8-track. I also remember having a huge crush on Annette Keeton (?), one of her friends, but that is a topic for another day. The Eagles songs were definitely from her early college days, as were the Willie Nelson, Jerry Jeff Walker and Emmylou Harris songs ... 'outlaw country' was very cool at that time.

track listing:

Midnight Confessions The Grass Roots
Temptation Eyes The Grass Roots
Funk #49 The James Gang
Done Too Soon Neil Diamond
I Am The Lion Neil Diamond
Betcha By Golly, Wow The Stylistics
You Are Everything The Stylistics
Somebody To Love Jefferson Airplane
White Rabbit Jefferson Airplane
Cecilia Simon & Garfunkel
The Boxer Simon & Garfunkel
Maggie May Rod Stewart
(I Know) I'm Losing You Rod Stewart
You Wear It Well Rod Stewart
Blue Eyes Crying In The Rain Willie Nelson
C'est La Vie Emmylou Harris
Two More Bottles Of Wine Emmylou Harris
L.A. Freeway Jerry Jeff Walker
London Homesick Blues Jerry Jeff Walker

The artists and album listing from aunts and uncles were:

The Everly Brothers - 1964 - Aunt Jennifer

I don't recall ever sitting and listening to The Everly Brothers, however, I'm familiar with all of their songs so they must have been part of the cultural sound track. Tight harmonies and manic (acoustic) guitar playing continues to be a formula that works.

Creedence Clearwater Revival - Chronicle 1968-1972 - Uncle Billy

I remember seeing them on variety TV shows. I specifically remember them being Eddie Brown's favorite band in the 7th grade at Pampa Junior High.

Jim Croce - Photographs & Memories - 1975 - Aunt Loretta

One of the first singer/songwriters that I latched on to. I liked the stories, the simple melodies, the hooks, the comedy of the lyrics. One of the more notable early musician deaths while I was growing up.

Steely Dan - Can't Buy a Thrill - 1972 - Aunt Nelda (and me)

Sometime in high school Nelda went on a date with some guy (probably named David - they were all named David). The poor girl had to share a bedroom with her little brother and many times she would come home from a date and tell me the good things, the bad things, what she thought he did that was cool or nice and what he did that was not. On this particular occasion she came home raving about some music he played that she had not heard. It was Steely Dan - Can't Buy A Thrill and she promptly went out and bought the album. I listened to it endlessly and became a Steely Dan fan.

Seals & Crofts - Diamond Girl - 1973 - Aunt Nelda (and me)

I loved this album cover. I thought the songs were too sentimental and I didn't really "get" them, but they were catchy and they had a certain hazy, feel good mood about them. I remember reading the lyrics in the liner notes trying to figure out what the story was behind the songs and finally giving up and just enjoying the light, care-free sort of vibe they put off. I also stole a few of the lyrics and structure for some poetry assignments at school.

Elton John - Greatest Hits - 1974 - Aunt Nelda and Uncle Steve (yes,really.)

I remember thinking it was pretty cocky of Elton John to release a greatest hits album so early in his career ... and then I realized that his music had consistently been played for 5 years straight, with major hit albums each year. I was much more a fan of 'Rocket Man' and 'Daniel' than I was the peppy 'Bennie and the Jets' or 'Saturday Night's Alright for Fighting'. They seemed to be trying too hard ... but it worked.

ZZ Top - Rio Grande Mud - 1972 - me

This album was a major player in my group of friends ( Walter Tyler, Don White, Paul Stewart, James Miller come to mind) in my high school days even though the album
came out well before we were in high school. It was gritty and funky and obscure enough to have missed top 40 air play. The biggest hit on the album, 'Francine', topped out at #69 on the pop charts. Aside from being a major sound track for all our social activities, it also taught me about blues and grit and that there was Texas music beyond country. 

Aerosmith - Toys in The Attic - 1975 - me

I was an early adopter of this album, I'm sure it was one of the '10 tapes for 1 cent!' offer from Columbia Record Club, and I went through two copies of the cassette tape between high school and college. I thought the album flowed well, that the songs led into each other properly and rarely skipped tracks to get to a better song. I thought the album title was genius, too - almost no one knew it was a reference to being crazy. I saw Aerosmith in concert once, and after that, I was no longer a fan. I must have been past the point where showmanship was more important than the music.

Fleetwood Mac - Rumours - 1977 - Your Mom

This album had something for everyone, too. And it seemed to be on the charts forever. It was so popular that I never actually purchased it. I think many people were drawn to the band and the music by the personalities as much as the music. My favorite song on this album was 'The Chain.'

Eagles - Hotel California - 1977 - Uncle Rodney

NOTE: It's 'Eagles' not 'The Eagles.' ;-) This was probably the consensus soundtrack for my senior year in high school. Everyone had it. Everyone loved it. It was compelling, not just because you could depend on the Eagles for great singing and tight musicianship, but because everyone thought the songs were speaking to them and that there must have been some deeper mystical meaning. Not a bad track on the album. My favorite was Victim of Love ("V.O.L. Is Five Piece Live" - google it).

Tom Petty - Damn the Torpedos - 1979 - me

There was a big record store near Preston and LBJ called Sound Warehouse. There was also a Sound Warehouse in Denton but to buy concert tickets we would get up early, drive to Dallas and stand in line at the big store because they had better seats and more tickets. We went to get tickets, I think for the Dan Fogelberg concert (not included here but if you want to check him out his album 'Netherlands' made me a fan). The line for tickets went up and down a few aisles. I saw a poster for the Damn the Torpedos album. A very attractive young lady pointed at the poster and said "this may be the best album of my lifetime." I was sold. She quite possibly could have been right. Loved it. Tom Petty fan for life.

Dire Straits - Dire Straits - 1978 - me

The first hit off this album, Sultans of Swing, really made an impression. I was going to school at UNT (NTSU), surrounded by music majors and had just become exposed to jazz/swing for the first time. This seemed like such a musically serious group and the album fit right in with where I was living. Definitely album rock, not Top 40.

Steely Dan - Aja - 1977 - me

I was already a committed Steely Dan fan long before Aja came out. I bought the cassette tape and loved every track on the first listen. My biggest memory regarding this album was when I was in college at UNT. In the Student Union building there was a 'quiet lounge' called the Avesta Lounge. You could go in there, hand the student at the desk you student ID and 'check out' an album. They would put it on the turntable and hand you a headset and say 'tune to channel 12' or somesuch. They had big cushy chairs, professional playback equipment and an enormous selection. You plugged the headset into a jack near your seat and turned a knob to the appropriate channel. I remember reading and studying in there with Aja playing quite often. Instead of requesting a new album when it ended I would tell the DJ "just let it play."

Kenny Rogers - Number Ones - 1977-1983 - Aunt Melissa

This was an Aunt Melissa suggestion and I have to say that I was never a Kenny Rogers fan. I take that back. I liked him when he was with The First Edition. That's not to say I don't appreciate his success. You don't have that many hits without a whole lot of people liking you. I hesitated on including it because Kenny Rogers was pretty much the opposite of the whole 'outlaw country' stuff that I liked. In a way he's not unlike Eagles or Fleetwood Mac. They were all very mainstream and popular.

Genesis - Genesis - 1983 - Aunt Christina

The first Genesis album I listened to and liked was Abacab; I really liked the title track and 'No Reply At All' which had a nice pop/soul feel. This was Aunt Christina's recommendation so we are creeping out of my era. I liked this album and was a big fan of Phil Collins and earlier Genesis, which included Peter Gabriel, another favorite worth checking out. The songs on this album have a lot of staying power and it had signature 1980's musical production values.

Journey - Frontier - 1983 - Aunt Christina

It would have been simple enough to include a greatest hits album for Journey. They have a ton. Steve Perry might have been the best rock 'n roll lead singer in a couple of generations. What I liked most about his singing was that he didn't sing around the notes, he just hit them. Usually hard. Made for radio hit singles are not easy to do consistently, and these guys did. I never owned this album, but I think it was their best. 

WHAM! - Make It Big - 1984 - Aunt Carol

This was suggested by Aunt Carol, and though it would be easy to give her a hard time about this choice given all the weirdness of George Michael, I don't think there is any question that these guys (?) were influential. There's a place in this world for danceable pop.

David + David - Boomtown - 1986 - Uncle Neil

This was suggested by Uncle Neil and strangely enough, I actually owned this one, too though I wasn't a big music consumer at the time. The title track sold me and I have to admit that I never listened too closely to the rest of the album. I assume Neil did.

World Party - Private Revolution - 1986 - Uncle Neil

You will have to consult Uncle Neil on this one. I remember one song on this album, Ship of Fools, but didn't own it and I'm not familiar.

Dwight Yoakum - Hillbilly Deluxe - 1987 - Uncle Neil

I knew Neil was a big fan. I was, too. I thought this album was perfectly conceived, from the title to the
cover art to the music. I always got the impression that Dwight Yoakum was acting a part and today he is as well known for his acting as his music. Not an easy feat to be successful in two artistic arenas.

INXS - Kick - 1987 - Uncle Neil

I liked this band and this album. I thought they had a unique sound and I liked their energy. Another one of Uncle Neil's recommendations that we agree on.

R.E.M. - Green - 1988 - Uncle Neil

One of the first things I heard about R.E.M. was that they were from Athens, GA, home of of the University of Georgia. After living in Atlanta I was under the impression that Athens only had rednecks and jocks. A very influential band. This album set the stage for a string of top selling albums.

Living Colour - Vivid - 1988 - Uncle Neil

I actually bought this one as well. The band made an impression on me on MTV ... I have to admit I was shocked to see that this band, which sounded much more metal than Motown, consisted of a bunch of black musicians. I was also in awe of their musicianship.


  1. You can't go wrong with CCR, but if I was to add anything to the list, I would add something pre-Michael McDonald Doobie Brothers. A toss up between Toulouse Street or The Captain and Me.

    1. Excellent suggestion - the only Doobie Brothers I owned was 'What Once Were Vices Are Now Habits.'